The Deliberate Yes

Saying yes can be a wonderful thing.  It makes it possible to learn new things, meet new people, have beautiful experiences, and accomplish things you never knew you could.

However, not being careful with what you say yes to can cause your life to be out of balance.  Saying yes to overtime at work, an extra take home project, or even tasks at church or a charitable organization – anything at all – takes resources away from something else. These can all be great choices, noble things to say yes to, but you are choosing one thing over another, whether you realize it or not.

It can be easy to lose sight of this when doing things out of habit or doing things that are inherently good things. You find yourself stressed out, tired, not feeling connected with your family and other things that are meaningful to you.  That’s why it’s imperative to make your yeses very deliberate.

What is most important to you?  What would you assign the most value in your life and consider your top 3 priorities?  Take a minute to think about this.

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Now consider how you spend most of your time.

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Do your priorities and how you spend your time line up?  Is there anything on your priority list that is being neglected?  If so, what needs to change?  There is almost always something you can do.  Granted, you may need to make some hard choices, but, in the long run, choosing to say yes to what is important to you will far outweigh what you need to say no to now.  It’s not possible to be living your best life if you aren’t focusing on what is meaningful to you

Your choices may not be popular with others. You may feel like you are letting someone down. But your mind, health, soul, family, and well-being are much too essential to leave to the whim of outside forces or habit.

Yes, you must meet your obligations, support yourself and your family, but you do have choices.

Say no to outside pressure and expectations; to overwork and pleasing others.

Say yes to your own priorities, goals, and dreams; to freedom, gratitude, life, love, and rest.

Mark 8:36

For what will it profit them to gain the whole world and forfeit their soul.


This article was inspired by the book Present Over Perfect, by Shauna Niequist

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